Is it possible for someone to actually feel lonely when surrounded by people ?
As Christmas draws nearer I always start to think and wonder how lonely people are coping.
From a very early age I started observing behavioural habits of fellow humans, probably when I was aged about 6, the same time as I started to take great interest in history and collecting, I wonder if they are all linked ?
Many of my family were elderly and I always noted how pleased they were to see me if I called on them and in turn I really enjoyed their company and listening to the fascinating stories that they had to tell probably inspired my interest in of my greatest passions, social history.
Loneliness of course isn't the exclusive domain of elderly people, many young people including small children have moments of loneliness and despair and often teenagers become withdrawn and are very vulnerable at this point.
I remember when as a youngster I retreated to my bedroom with my pets for company, driven there by the bullying tactics of one of my elder siblings, my pets were a great comfort and seemed to understand my sad moments.
One of the big problems is when our daily busy lives distracts us from spotting someone who really is suffering from loneliness and depression, if only we could all make the time to stop and chat to the old lady or man who stand at their front door hoping that someone will notice them and maybe stop for a few minutes to chat with them, that could possibly be the only human contact they have that day,
Makes you think doesn't it ?
There are so many things that can be done to help vulnerable people and of course it's worth remembering that one day you could be in the same position.
I'm aware that there are many kind and caring people out there, who invite lonely people into their homes for an occasional meal or take them shopping and I know just how important and appreciated small acts like this are to so many.
And if you are feeling lonely or maybe neglected you really can do something about it.
Have you thought about joining a group, so many different organisations are out there to help you, but often you need to make the first contact, and even if you are feeling depressed or down ,why not try helping another person who you recognise as being 'in the same boat ', fantastic therapy, helping other people and you also benefit.
I worked many years ago as a social worker, just for 3 years and only part time, but what an eye opener it was for me, meeting such lovely people in their homes who just wanted and needed to have a little contact with another human being.
Even in the short time that I've had my museum running I've had several people, including couples , who desperately needed the chance to chat and I've tried to encourage them to take up new hobbies and pastimes and actually introduced some to start collecting.
Collecting is really a fantastic way to meet people and even just corresponding with people who have similar interests can be a fantastic therapy.
And what could I collect, I hear you mutter, well the list is endless, it could be old favourites like stamp or coin collecting, or something really obscure like my probably most bizarre collection-- airline sick bags, empty and unused of course.
Of course if you need help in choosing a new hobby please just ask me ,I'd be more than happy to help,
Take Care Everyone and Remember to keep your eyes open for people who might be in need of a little help...