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A Foot in Two Campos

Thoughts from a brand new home-owner in the Axarquía region of Málaga. I hope there might be some information and experiences of use to other new purchasers, plus the occasional line to provoke thought or discussion.

30 - Bubble-Wrap and Pointless Possessions
Thursday, November 15, 2012 @ 4:22 PM

 A motorbike, two heads of antlers, a billiard table and a bonsai tree.  Somebody's idea of the 5 most important things to take to Spain.   I suppose it must make sense to them.  Conveniently, the person who had booked three quarters of Graham's transit van for their antlers and other valuables, had left room at the back for my stuff.

Mum's bureau was the main thing.  Sturdy and made of burnished rosewood with rows of compartments and some secret drawers that had captivated me as a child, it is a piece of furniture which I've known all my life.  One drawer still full of unsorted papers, including an envelope of all the letters l ever wrote her.  A shock to find as l had gone through the desk, throwing away the collected paraphernalia of a life - diaries, old cheque books, receipts and instruction booklets for items long discarded.  The bureau produced a binbag of detritus, nothing worth keeping, the ordered clutter of one's day-to-day existence.  And the letters.  A regular correspondence from 1978 to the early 90s, from my time in rented flats in Lancaster and Leeds as a young Assistant Stage Manager, then in touring theatre.  Postcards tucked in with some of the letters, tracking the progress of the tours around the "number two circuit", large towns and small cities, 600-seat playhouses and arts centres.  Letters full of irrelevancies, odd funny stories about my theatrical digs or a late-night adventure in some faceless provincial town. Nothing of import, yet each one smoothed flat and stored.  I hadn't known, nor expected that.  Still unsure how to react, how to feel.

So the bureau gets draped in bubble-wrap and a blanket, and loaded onto the back of the van.  Four cardboard boxes of books, walking boots, photos, CDs, bedding.  Hard to remember, though packed only a week ago.  There's a bonus space on the van for the bookshelf from the hallway of mum's bungalow.  Not a large one, but without it her empty home looks suddenly emptier. 

The final small space on the van is reserved for the pig.  Forty-seven years old, he's scratched and his skin sits loosely on whatever his insides are made of.  I was seven when we moved to Yorkshire, and Dad announced that if we were to live in Yorkshire he wanted to keep a pig.  Horrified, mum bought him a life-size black leather pig, a footstool l think (though never a comfortable one) and informed him it was the only pig he was having.  In all her moves since his death in 1975, the pig and the bureau are the only things that made the move with her every time.  Now both are on Graham's van, heading for the ferry to Santander.

The motorbike, two heads of antlers, the billiard table and the bonsai tree may have back-stories too.  To me, somebody else's choices of what to surround themselves with in Spain seem odd.  My choices would seem just as odd to others.  After slamming the doors on the van and waving Graham off in the November dark and drizzle, l turned on the computer to find a Facebook thread started by a friend in Spain:  "What is the most useless thing you brought with you when you moved to Spain?"  Electric strimmers and metal detectors came up a few times.  A husband was listed once!  Nobody mentioned antlers.  Nobody mentioned a battered old leather pig.  Nobody mentioned an envelope of thirty-year-old letters.

 

 

© Tamara Essex 2012



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Gerald said:
Thursday, November 15, 2012 @ 4:05 PM

Brilliant Tamara thank you, some humorous things, some heart breaking things but all of great interest.
I love your blogs quite different to ours in many ways, but your personal history entwined with modern day moving to Spain is so good.


Dilemma said:
Thursday, November 15, 2012 @ 5:56 PM

Hi Tamara, I am a new member on Eye on Spain and have been following your great blog. My family and I are relocating to Spain in just 4 weeks time and this made me laugh out loud as I am in the process of packing right now! There are certainly a few bureau type processions I am wrangling with what to do!!


Casalinda said:
Thursday, November 15, 2012 @ 7:03 PM

We can't think of anything that was useless, but we have certainly been glad of our nice furniture, familiar cooking equipment, wincyette nighties (both of us!!), old DVDs (Blackadder, Ab Fab, Henry V) and, of course, the motorbikes. Enjoy your Mum's collection, Tamara, it's important to know that those letters mattered so much to her. Can't comment on the pig!!
Linda
eos/biking&bakinginlasalpujarras


Patricia (Campana) said:
Thursday, November 15, 2012 @ 8:26 PM

"Letters tied with blue, a photograph or two...."

An old song. Those letters from long ago. I can't bear to burn them.

An old friend, now long dead, used to say that a move was like a fire. Things get lost, things get broken.

We got married in Ireland and so wedding presents had to be ferried in lots over to Spain. Many had to remain behind in a number of large boxes in my parents' home, not because we liked those gifts less.. Generous relatives and friends gave us some beautiful Waterford crystal. Nowadays, just one of those goblets would keep you in food for a week.
Milagrosamente, most of crystal has survived. The givers, living and dead, are present when we raise a glass.










Tamara said:
Thursday, November 15, 2012 @ 9:05 PM

Thanks peeps - yes even while l was writing this (on the plane this morning) it made me laugh and cry! Patricia - l so agree, daily memories come from a tea caddy, a dish or a piece of furniture.


Louise said:
Saturday, November 17, 2012 @ 11:37 AM

Another lovely chapter. I haven't yet moved but we have started packing as our house in the Uk sold amazingly quickly (less than 4 weeks!) and now we are going into rented for a few months. We are trying to pack the things that we won't need in our rental in to the boxes headed to Spain and the rest will be unpacked into our new home for a few months. I have a couple of little things that I wouldn't leave behind and one is a glass mushroom that I had after my Grandmother had died and it reminds me of her and my late Grandad. Its not particularly beautiful but with a few rays of sunshine on it it will look alot better! I also have a very small plasticine rabbit that my daughter (now 17) made for me when she was about 11 I guess. It has so much detail its brilliant. I also have a sheep and a bear she made in Fymo which will come with me. Keep the stories coming, I really look forward to them!



eggcup said:
Saturday, November 17, 2012 @ 3:01 PM

Lovely post, Tamara. It makes you think about the importance (or not) of things. I had quite a few of my Dad's beer glasses (no surprise there) and one has recently cracked, because we do use them, but I don't mind. My husband's brother seemed to get hold of most his mother's nice little bits of artwork (even though he was never close to his mother, like my husband was). It can make you a bit mad, momentarily, but then I think 'it doesn't matter.' What's more important is the relationship you had with them when they were alive and how you think, often, of them now...


Tamara said:
Saturday, November 17, 2012 @ 5:34 PM

I love that this post has made you all think of those special things that remind you of your loved ones :-) It's that universal experience, isn't it?


lou lou said:
Sunday, November 18, 2012 @ 11:10 AM

Loved to read what you all spoke about , great people,


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