Today I want to talk to you about the need to disconnect from work, on vacation. And for that, I have resorted to the interview that they did, in the radio, to the Spanish Psychologist, Jose Miguel Sanchez, who has published a book entitled: "Poderoso como un niño" ("Mighty like a child").
Jose Miguel has extensive experience as a Senior Executive Coach of companies and he says that, in most cases, despite the appearance of power, when he treated them, personally, they demonstrated to have many vulnerabilities, many limitations , which were not well worked. However, Jose Miguel sees that kids are powerful.
In his book, he uses the word “To reset”; he means that you can reset your wrong behaviors –like a computer is reset and all is right— and then you can start again. Because Jose Miguel says that we have learned a lot of things and we have to inspect them. In fact, Jose Miguel works twelve areas, in his book, like: commitment, passion, ability interrelation, learning agility, creativity, etc.
All these things have had when we were kids (they are neural circuits, that have been created and have been in use, however, as adults, for whatever reason --often social—we have decided to abandon them) . So, to me, "Reset" is to reconnect these neural circuits, which, at the time, they were and cause of a reason, surely social, we have decided to disconnect them.
In his book, Jose Miguel makes a difference among Commitment and Passion. He says that Commitment is something voluntary and requires motivation. However, the Passion goes a step further. According to the Royal Academy of the Spanish Language, the Passion is "A vehement hobby for something". That "vehement hobby" is what we see in children, in almost everything they do. That "vehement hobby" is what we see in adults, when they really go for something. However, Commitment is a previous step, it is voluntary.
Jose Miguel also speaks of Communication. He says that children Communication is direct, unfiltered, unqualified; we know what we are asking, since they are very small. However, adults use a communication with filters --what psychologists call "mental models"-- and these filters start to get complicated.; and we have not learned, for example in the business, to talk, to have a honest conversation. Jose Miguel says that we base our communication in words, when what matters is not the words, but our corporality and our tone of voice --and this could link to the Passion-- . He says that an unconscious communication exists. For example, many times ocurrs that you see to somebody, for a first time, and you are liked to that person; it is, because exists an unconscious communication among both of you.
Jose Miguel also speaks, in his book, of Confidence and does this in two ways: that I have Confidence in myself and trust that I believe in my team. The confidence in myself stems from the belief that I have in me and also I will help my environment.
On the other hand, the Confidence in my team is a word that is divided into 2: “Con” ("With") and “fianza” ("bail"); ie I give "Bail" to my team.
“Learning agility” is one of the skills that best are working right now to measure the talent and potential in people. Just do not care what you know, what you know, but also what you are capable of learning. To Jose Miguel, the "Learning Agility" is a mixture of several things: flexibility, the ability to adapt, the ability to manage change --we have to get used to living in the changes--. Jose Miguel says that the Agility to learn has to do with these people who are "Early adopter", ie those people who take a fashion, as this goes to the market. In Marketing, this concept is used; for example, at first hardly anyone wanted to have "Apple", however many millions of people now use an AIPAD of Apple.
Well, I hope that you have liked this post such as I did.
Till soon, kind regards,
Luis.
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