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How do I handle this? My elderly English neighbour appeared on my lower balcony last night throwing stuff about. When I went out she retreated to her own balcony threatening me and shouting terrible abuse for about 3 hours. She'd quieten for a while then come rattle my gate, call my name then start again. Her husband didn't intervene, I guess it was giving him a break. I think she may have mental health issues, but that is their problem not mine. I live alone most of the time and find it very scary. This morning she appears on her balcony, full of the joys of spring, munching her coco pops like nothing's happened? I live on a community, do I report to the president or denounce? Maybe the impending full moon tipped her over the edge??? I nearly did !
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I would suggest you start by trying to have a quiet word with the husband, and perhaps gently suggest that he puts a padlock on the drinks cabinet.
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That's probably a big part of the problem....usual kick off time is late evening! My husband suggests a taser.....joking!
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If you are not the guilty party'...then you should go to the police and let them sort it out.
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I think perhaps that is the route I need to go down. Perhaps a little visit from them might be just the wake up call they need. It's quite intimidating if I'm there solo especially now her behaviour is escalating. I'm such a quiet non-confrontational person that I've just put up with it until now thinking perhaps she has Alzheimer's or similar but enough is enough. I won't approach them directly, frankly I'm a bit scared of the reaction I might get. When we moved in other neighbours did warn me she was a 'bit highly strung' , ha she's that all right plus a bit more.
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Suggest you enlist the help of your community president first
If that doesn't work then the police is the only answer
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Any anti social behaviour laws in Spain?
I was reading these posts and just wondering if any local community agencies or councils have powers similar to those in the UK to visit and warn of behaviour as a first step approach. Sometimes going straight to the police may make the lady worse. Just on the basis that if she is an alcoholic she won't give a monkeys about her behaviour when she's drunk.
A local agency might provide some support as well as telling her off (perhaps). That can be organised over here through housing sections of the council.
Just a thought.
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Best wishes, Brian
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Maybe I'll have a word with the President first, he is very approachable and has been very helpful to date with all my various newbie queries. I'm guessing he may already be aware of the problem. Unfortunately he was away the other night when it was kicking off, he certainly couldn't have missed it, there was a fair old commotion...onwards and upwards....
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Perhaps you should keep a bucket of water on your upper balcony and accidentally trip over it when you come out to see what the noise is all about?
How could anyone complain if you accidentally tipped water on your own lower balcony?
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I have a hose! Liking your thinking....... joking!
This message was last edited by Weescottie on 16/05/2017.
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Perhaps something stronger in the bucket.
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Wine??? Then I can drink it myself and all will be okay with the world???
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Hello, hopefully you have got this sorted? Not a nice situation.
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Update, the president has been informed, I have secured my downstairs balcony and have come back to Scotland for a few days....let's see how things are on my return....I will have zero tolerance next time, no more Mrs Nice Guy x. I think that's been part of the problem, so easy going that I've been seen as an easy target....Mrs Meldrew on steroids next time!
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Mrs Scottie I see the info I posted re how make a complaint to the police has been removed, so if you, or anyone else, wants me to explain again, just PM me,
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That's the spirit weescottie go for it
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Don't get yourself arrested! Sometimes the psychos win battles!!!
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Best wishes, Brian
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Don’t throw spirit on her, too expensive.
Tadd and baz
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No way, I'm Scottish....I wouldn't waste it! It will all settle down I'm sure...heard from president today, he's on board and there is already a recognised problem with them so at least feel I have some back up....feeling positive, thank you all for your support x
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The jokey suggestions are great but it sounds like there are serious mental issues and the good thing must be to first have a sit down, serious conversation with the husband.
He is responsible and probably needs to be nicely told that he has to take action. He may have just got used to her behavoir or be in denial, but for everyone's benefit, including her's, that must be the right approach. The husband must be persuaded to seek medical help for her. By ignoring the cause of the problem it's likely to get worse.
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