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Shall I stay or shall I go?

Here we are in soggy Tunbridge Wells, in a house we hate, but still we can't quite make the decision to leave. This is the story of why we are in this position, and hopefully how eventually we'll change life for the better. Maybe it will ring a few bells with some of you!

I’m leaving on an airplane
Saturday, September 15, 2018 @ 10:06 PM

This must be the most protracted move to Spain ever.

We have completed one more small step by downsizing even further into a nice little house in perfect, as new condition, with tiny running costs, and excellent rental potential.   .....tick!

James has spent two months at the house in Spain doing maintenance and seeing whether he likes being retired. It turns out he does, BUT, doesn’t like the lack of income, and when his finished the DIY what can he do all day?

That’s a bit of a sticking point....

James brought Tilly, our  black Labrador with him, and was looking forward to long ‘yomps’ around the countryside, but in the first week in she tore her cruciate ligament and had to undergo a repair operation, which meant a 1000 Euro bill and a dog that could only hobble along the road for about 50 yards or so. Sods Law!

Still, on the plus side it would have cost £5000 in the UK.

We went dog walking for the local stray dog charity a few times, but you can’t wander off with a dog, they don’t like it!

I popped out a couple of times whilst he was in residence, but someone had to stay home with the cat and earn some  money, and it was a busy time for me, and that’s the trouble....I have a busy, reasonably sociable work life in the UK which would take me a long time to to replicate in a Spain. I love it, but all my contacts are in England, and in my trade we need a lot of good contacts.

Perhaps I should explain, I am a dealer in ladies designer and vintage clothes and accessories, and I love it! 

I know there are some dealers here and in fact I know some of them from home, but the market here is much smaller and not as far reaching. In and around London there are buyers and sellers of every style and quality and there’s the possibility to work literally every day if you want to, not that I do, but I’d miss that buzz.

The other thing of course is my Sons and my Grandchildren. I’m not a terribly maternal person, both my Sons  will tell you that, in fact my eldest told me that he likes me lot better now he’s grown up, and I told him I like him better grown up too!

However, I do like to see them every couple of weeks. Not for ages, a couple of hours is plenty, but it’s not going to happen if we live in Spain full time, and I’d feel a bit as though I was deserting them. 

So, at present I’m sitting here in Estepona by myself looking at a television with the sound muted, while James is in the UK.,  trying to make a life here, without losing my life at home by whizzing back and forth as often as possible, and hoping it will all come together.

I suppose it would help if I wasn’t an introverted teetotaller as well. 

Time for another cup of tea!

 

 



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jane27 said:
Sunday, September 16, 2018 @ 9:00 AM

Hi Joanna. Love your writing style, it's very honest. Good writers are often raving introverts so no worries there. Good luck with everything.
Regards Jane


Stinkey said:
Saturday, September 22, 2018 @ 1:07 PM

Well Joanna it seems like your not really ready for that big move yet ? We've not done it YET ? But due to outside influence ( we can't sell our place in UK ?)
But at least you've discovered life isn't all roses wherever you live..if you HAVE to see family often..it's not going to work I'm afraid


Dave11 said:
Saturday, September 22, 2018 @ 3:07 PM

Good luck with the decisions you make... Nice blog....


jsevanbergen said:
Saturday, September 22, 2018 @ 4:28 PM

Hello Stinkey!
Well, my Eldest, the one with the kids, is talking about moving to Japan for a couple of years so that the kids can learn to write in Japanese ( his wife is Japanese, and they are all bilingual), so if that happens it will free us, but I feel that as they have no other extended family around, we should make ourselves available whilst the kids are still young. I know Japanese Grandma would love it if they went, it’s just a question of him getting the right job. Money again! My other Son, well, he’s still a single lad, so apart from financial support every now and again, we hardly ever see him, but I think he likes to know we are handy.


jsevanbergen said:
Saturday, September 22, 2018 @ 4:31 PM

Dave11, Thanks, it’s really just a question of when.
I need somewhere to stay when I go back to work. If we let our house for an income, I’ve got no roof over my head in the UK., if I can sort that problem out then it’s all stations go.


rob_j1 said:
Sunday, September 23, 2018 @ 12:47 PM

Estepona is a lovely area. We're building near Benahavis, and should be done in 3-6 months.

I'm curious to know how you get on, because I think a lot of the same kinds of things might crop up. We do have some younger kids though, 12 and 9, and I have to consider their needs for education, etc. Would be great to be pointed in the direction of a local support group!!!


jsevanbergen said:
Sunday, September 23, 2018 @ 2:19 PM

rob_j1

Hello! Just got back from the boot sale at Benahavis, we’ll worth a visit when it comes to furnishing your new house when it’s finished.

I don’t think we’d have had the courage to move out when the boys were younger, but I know a couple who have, and their kids have got on famously. This couple came over with a promise of a job, no property and two small kids, one of each . They didn’t even know the name of the town they were going to, (Sabanillas), but the kids were fluent in reading and writing Spanish by the end of the first year, and when the daughter moved to a big school, the headmaster didn’t know that she wasn’t Spanish!
Go on Facebook, there is Living in Spain, Ladies of Spain, CAB advice in Spain,... loads of sites. Probably one for Benahavis residents too.


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